Yesterday
I had a lovely time with my beautiful friend Tulla. Even though we chat almost
daily, we don't get together that often, so seeing her in person is an event of
its own.
We
talked for hours. About topics we always go through and topics that we have
never talked about and we got to share our opinions and sort of discover a new
side of each other.
We
talked about relationships. There’s a time in every relationship where you have
to decide if the (annoying) difference in other person is something that is
possible to overcome or overlook or it’s something that is so unbearable and
unchangeable that it’s better to part ways.
How
do you tell you’re significant other or a dear friend or a family member that
there’s something about him/her that really puts you off? Are you a person that hardly ever says
anything and secretly despises the other person or are you on the other end and
constantly pointing out the mistakes and bad habits of the other? Or are you
someone who just talks to others about the persons problems that you think
he/she has?
I
think I’m a combination of the three. I tend to talk to other people and not
the person it is about. And I know I should stop that and just pull up a
courage to talk to the person that I have trouble with.
Have
you heard of the expression “The more you think about yourself, the more sad
you get?” I think it applies to other people too – the more you think about
other peoples problems and how they annoy you, the more agitated you get.
So
what’s the key here? How to cope with your annoying close ones? Aim your focus
right. Aim your focus on God. Aim your focus on how awesome God is and the
troubles you have on Earth, seem empty and pointless.
What
would make things even better – look at the Lord together with the person
closest to you and other people around you that you can’t “escape” from.
I
wish I could actually do that. Overlook the mistakes of others. Overlook the
mistakes of me. Well, maybe overlook is the wrong word. Forgive. Be okay with.
Handle it nicely. The problem is that we tend to be too hard on ourselves and
it’s only fair if we are hard on others too. But is it?
It’s
not fair to be hard on ourselves too. Today another friend told me these words:
“You often use the word fail when you
talk about things you're doing. I just wanted to tell you that god isn't
concerned with your performance, but He is concerned about your heart and He
wants you to fell free.“ Don’t I have wise friends?
That
really sums up what I’m trying to say. If we only actually understood it…
